Young children and dating after divorce
You may find that you spend more time thinking about your motherly (or fatherly) physique. Keep in mind that if you're dating in your age range, the people you're dating are probably thinking the same things about their body that you are. Our approach was to always try to make our house a place of safety and stability. In fact it's not only possible, it's completely worth it.Marriage has a way of allowing you to become a bit, shall we say, soft. Maybe if you've had a few kids you have some saggy bits. Love really is pretty blind, and the right person won't give two shakes about your stretch marks. I know this because I waited a long time to be with someone I really wanted to sit with at dinner and lay with at night and raise a family with.Matt is the first and last person I dated, and since I didn't really want to be single (I just didn't want to be married to my ex), we wasted no time getting serious. It may take hold of you with both hands in a grip so tight you can't, and don't want to try to, escape it.To quote the great , when you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. It may not be exactly easy to integrate that love into the life you had with your kids before that person came along, but it's not impossible."For your child's sake, you need to work as hard as you can to create two new families, and it will take both parents to make sure that the new families flourish." Conversations to Help Kids Cope With Divorce How you tell children about an impending divorce will have a lot to do with your child's age, your living situation, and the degree of tension between you and your ex.If you have older children, give them some time to get used to the news by talking to them at least a month before you and your ex begin living apart.Experts say that divorce does not have to cast a shadow over your children's entire lives, or keep them from having healthy relationships of their own in the future.
Even very young children will be reassured if you acknowledge the upcoming change, even if they can't yet understand the precise meaning of your words.
Divorce can be wrenching when kids are involved, but there's a lot you can do to help children cope.