To go from friends to dating
These relationships, like the ones in middle school, were given no thought before I entered into them.
We are so quick to jump to the opportunity of having a boyfriend in our lives, that we end up making a decision that is not what’s best for us.
It’s an: “It’s not you, it’s me” situation, except it comes before any relationship has even happened.
Problem is, your feelings for him and what your relationship are just an illusion.
I took my own advice and went at it during my second semester of senior year. I was able to get to know him as a person, without the awkward pressure of feeling like we needed to date.
I wanted to see him more, but I did not want to get attached before we would en dup being two hours away from each other.
College started, and our talking stopped until one night I decided to start things back up with him. We have had our struggles here and there because of the distance, but not once have we decided that we are not meant for each other.
The boys I dated in high school all ended up leading to short relationships because I did not build a friendship before becoming committed to them.
I think this is one of the biggest mistakes females make in our society. We don’t even think about building that sense of trust and friendship before actually dating because we are too strung up on the idea of “needing” a boy in our life.
Of course I had my cute little relationships in middle school where I thought I was in love, but really, I had no idea what love even was or why I was in the relationship in the first place.