Signs of being desperate dating
You want his full attention all the time, even if he´s talking to someone, hanging out with the boys, or watching football. You don´t allow him to spend time with his friends. You leave an unhappy relationship, only to end up in another unhappy relationship. If a man breaks up with you because of your neediness, you do everything to chase him and win him back. He needs an equal partner who can contribute to the relationship. Want to unlock the hidden desires of a man that leaves him loving, devoted and committed to you? In the contrary, he hardly posts anything in his social media about you. You talk about marriage, children and a future with him too soon. If he has a cough, you spend three hours making a medicinal tea for him. You send friend requests to all his friends in Facebook, and you chat with them like you´re one in their circle.
You require him to introduce you as his girlfriend to everyone all the time. You forget your standards, or you have no standards at all. Your “love cravings” set you up for more relationship failures. You rely heavily on him, which eventually becomes a burden to him. He´s no longer your potential partner, but he becomes your project. Your Facebook friends are already fed up with your overly dramatic statuses of how much he loves you or you love him, and how blessed you are to have him. If he calls you to pick him up at the airport at 4 am, you jump on your bed to do so.
Such suspicions may arise in the form of a partner who only texts when it's convenient for them, or when they want a late night hookup.
It could also come from a boss who kind of expects you to work late, and even hints at your lack of job security when you don't.
You change all of your views and opinions based on what your current boyfriend likes and doesn’t like. You accompany him wherever he goes, even to the gym or to a boxing match. If he´s late on your date for over 30 minutes, you´re willing to wait a little longer even if your eye liner´s already running. You often hang out in his place, and would run to his side with a snap of a finger. You cook an elaborate meal on your first, or even second, date. You call and text him several times a day, you leave long messages on his machine, you respond to his emails in less than 2 seconds. You freak out if he doesn´t answer your texts, calls or emails right away. It doesn´t matter if he has a girlfriend or is married, if he shows interest in you, then you are willing to have a relationship with him. If he cancels your date on the last minute, you´re so willing to do it tomorrow, same time. You regularly see him on short notice or when it is convenient for him. You think he doesn´t love you as much as you love him, so you require him to love you more. Men want to do the chasing, but if you´re so readily available, it wears off the excitement prematurely. You are willing to sacrifice your dignity over having a relationship with him. You give him your entire savings, or whatever money you got, to help pay his house, live with him and pray that he´ll marry you. You don´t do other things outside of him, you spend your entire free time for him. Make him commit and surrender his heart to you, learn how to be “the woman men adore and never want to leave”. You need nonstop body contact—holding hands, kissing and hugging even in public. But you only come off as desperate, which drives the man even further. You invest too much or exert effort too early in a new relationship, which cuts the chase. You give up your career in order to support him in achieving his dreams. If he wants to renovate his apartment, you bend backward to organize a team of workers at a discounted rate—all in the name of pleasing him. You try too hard to become close to his mom and dad, and his siblings too. You buy them turkey for dinner, even if it isn´t thanksgiving. But, somewhat creepily, they are often only doing so to benefit themselves. if you mention your needs, they will ignore them, or even argue with you." Once you realize what they're up to, it can all seem pretty obvious.
According to Melillo, "They'll do a (very small) favor for you and then use that to create a sense of guilt and obligation in you." When it comes time to for them to ask a favor, they'll bring up "all they did for you." It just screams of guilt-tripping. Is your friend betraying your trust, and trying to snatch up everything you love?These are the same people who will cold shoulder you once they get what they want.