Pros and cons of dating an asian man
The beautiful thing about this is that now they know how to truly cherish what is considered “different.” “I’m the palest skinned woman you’ve ever seen, and I’m dating a black guy,” says Lindsay Lambert, a junior at the University of Oregon.
“To be completely and shamefully honest, before I dated my boyfriend I probably would have stared at an interracial couple too.
“My girlfriend is Taiwanese and I will never have grown up Asian in a predominantly white Catholic school like she did, but to the best of my abilities I can be part of her life and know the people in her Taiwanese community. This is a really important aspect of the conversation to address, because part of existing within an ideology means that you aren’t aware of the ideology until you’re outside of it–and if you’re interracially dating, you’re definitely outside of it.
Honestly, it’s fun.” Your partner can teach you about their experience within their own racial community, giving you the opportunity to see the world from new eyes. Many of us have a stereotyped picture in our heads of what love is supposed to look like, and when we see something different, it tends to make us squirm.
It’s like–now me and my friends that are lesbians, gay, interracial or whatever can all gather around and laugh at the way people look at us.
Some will attribute your relationship to you not being able to gain the interest of anyone with your own coloring. “People say the stupidest things, and I could talk about that pretty much forever,” says Taylor Avdalovic, a senior at the University of Alabama.