Paralyzing fear of dating
Change is difficult for everyone; there are few people that don’t feel somewhat anxious at the prospect of a major upheaval in their lives.
The problem comes when fear of change keeps people paralyzed in situations that are not healthy or fulfilling, or when their fear of change isn’t confined to significant changes, but encompasses relatively minor, daily changes in routine.
Often, these marriages end in divorce when one or both partners have finally had enough, but the divorce is very difficult for everyone involved, not least of which being the children.
Another frequently observed example of fear of change is the person who stays at a boring job or a career that they have no passion for, just because they can’t wrap their minds around embarking on an entirely new and different career path.
Being a solo parent without backup is crazy hard and I feel lonely a lot, but I’ve actually never felt more lonely than when experiencing a crappy date. Well, a great date leads to more dates which could mean a relationship and then what? Divorced for eight months and separated for about a year before that and I still don’t really feel capable of jumping into a new relationship. How could I possibly inflict myself on a new person right now?Don’t date because someone tells you to or because you’re lonely or you feel like this is your one last chance at love. Figure out who you are and what you’re really looking for instead of knee-jerk dating in response to fear and loneliness. If notorious serial dater George Clooney can change his mind about marriage, then maybe I eventually can too.