Fun conversation with woman dating coach
I have also realized that having deep intimacy is a basic need and desire I have, which I reflected clearly in the close relationships I have with family and friends. It feels like a waste of time and is highly unsatisfying.I just came across the concept of “Deeper Dating” by Ken Page.And that’s the irony of the title of the piece “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This.” By forcing intimacy, you create the conditions for a deeper, better, more memorable date.You see the humanity inside every man, and get beyond the general biographical patter that dots most early dates.Her answer was blunt and patient: “It’s been two weeks.We will continue to grow and deepen our relationship as we get to know each other over time.” She was dealing in reality. Lest you think I’m trying to push you in the shallow end of the pool against your will, I’m not.
It seems like you want it all up front, which a) isn’t always realistic and b) isn’t always accurate.The first serious girlfriend I ever had (which was, for me, a 5 month relationship during my senior year of college) taught me this lesson herself.I had waited so long (21 years) to find someone to love that within 2 weeks I was wondering why she didn’t love me back.Furthermore, people who ARE as intense as you may go deep right away, but sometimes that intimacy can be an illusion.
I can have a great 5 hour conversation with a stranger on an airplane, but that doesn’t mean we’re compatible.By forcing intimacy, you create the conditions for a deeper, better, more memorable date.